My first REAL kiss

I have no idea what made me think of my first kiss recently, but now I can’t stop thinking about it. And not in a good way.

To set this up properly, here’s a picture of me from the First Kiss Era.

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I’m pretty sure I was 14 when the kiss happened (although we all know my memory is Brian Williams-caliber terrible) and I think his name was Mike. We met at the mall where my friends and I would try on Z Cavaricci jeans, loiter and try to flirt with boys for hours. Continue reading

I love Facebook (honestly)

Facebook is where I found my childhood best friend. Her last name is Jones so google had only produced “success” in the form of her father’s obituary.

But then a year or two later, suddenly there she was showing up on the walls of other elementary school friends.

After a moment’s hesitation when I wondered “why hasn’t she friended me?” I clicked “Add Friend” and cried when I got the notification minutes later that she had accepted. We met up in person soon afterward. It has been wonderful to reconnect and to realize that we would choose to be friends as adults too.

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LA salad

I went to LA, ate salads and gained three pounds

People in Los Angeles eat healthy. It rubbed off on me.

Look! Given many choices, I ordered this salad two days in a row.

LA salad

And then in a business meeting, I was offered sandwiches and this salad, and I chose salad. Lots of salad. Continue reading

You have to admit…

Even if you didn’t vote for President Obama, or if you don’t support Hillary, you have to admit

Via Society6 and JasonWYates

The lack of diversity among American presidents is appalling.

There has never been a President of Italian descent, or a President who publicly identified as gay or transgender. We have never had a Jewish President, a female President, a Native American President or an Asian-American President. Every single President has been Christian and just one has been Catholic.

My friend Cherylanne‘s seven year old was stunned to realize that every single American President has been male.

How can we responsibly continue to allow such a narrow segment of the American population to represent all of us?

We can’t.

Instead we have to believe that different perspectives are good for the nation. We have to trust that diversity and inclusion will take us in a positive direction. And obviously, we have to vote.

This post is strictly for the ladies

I am always reading articles and books and tweets and such about how I can Live My Best Life, particularly as a Woman in Business.

Via Memeguy

In particular, I love to learn about negotiating tactics and career development. I know not to be afraid to ask for what I deserve, but I get tripped up on this: the other side has to be open to hearing me.

There have been times when I have spoken clearly about what I am seeking, only to be labeled “aggressive” and “confident.” What he (and it’s always been a he) meant was “cocky” or “arrogant.” It was not a compliment, I felt sure.

Recently Ellen Pao, interim CEO of Reddit, announced that the company has eliminated salary negotiation from the hiring process in an effort to address the gender wage gap.

Acknowledging this is key. From Pao:

Men negotiate harder than women do and sometimes women get penalized when they do negotiate.

But part of me worries that this is akin to teaching women how to avoid being raped instead of telling men not to rape. Shouldn’t we all just learn that it’s normal to have women ask for what we’re worth?

What do you think?

Where are you, Bill?

I found Bill right around the corner from where I was living.

Bill was on 20th Street near my first-ever grown-up apartment, a tiny studio on Park Avenue South in Gramercy Park. I was in a bad way and Bill took care of me. It was scary for me to trust again, but with time, I grew to give Bill carte blanche.

At least with my hair.


My hair adventure started just prior to graduating from Cornell.graduation bob 2

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