I am always reading articles and books and tweets and such about how I can Live My Best Life, particularly as a Woman in Business.
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In particular, I love to learn about negotiating tactics and career development. I know not to be afraid to ask for what I deserve, but I get tripped up on this: the other side has to be open to hearing me.
There have been times when I have spoken clearly about what I am seeking, only to be labeled “aggressive” and “confident.” What he (and it’s always been a he) meant was “cocky” or “arrogant.” It was not a compliment, I felt sure.
Recently Ellen Pao, interim CEO of Reddit, announced that the company has eliminated salary negotiation from the hiring process in an effort to address the gender wage gap.
Acknowledging this is key. From Pao:
Men negotiate harder than women do and sometimes women get penalized when they do negotiate.
But part of me worries that this is akin to teaching women how to avoid being raped instead of telling men not to rape. Shouldn’t we all just learn that it’s normal to have women ask for what we’re worth?
What do you think?
OneChicklette 
Before you can negotiate, you need a job to go to. There’s not enough jobs for women. I don’t think anybody likes aggressive people, whether you’re male or female. There’s a difference between self-confidence/assertive and aggressive. Aggressive to me means you are ready to attack or inflict damage.
I disagree with your comment strenuously. To be honest, I’m struggling to come up with a response. Perhaps another reader will chime in more productively than I can.
I’m terrible at that as well – need to get more hard ball for sure!