I am always reading articles and books and tweets and such about how I can Live My Best Life, particularly as a Woman in Business.
In particular, I love to learn about negotiating tactics and career development. I know not to be afraid to ask for what I deserve, but I get tripped up on this: the other side has to be open to hearing me.
There have been times when I have spoken clearly about what I am seeking, only to be labeled “aggressive” and “confident.” What he (and it’s always been a he) meant was “cocky” or “arrogant.” It was not a compliment, I felt sure.
Recently Ellen Pao, interim CEO of Reddit, announced that the company has eliminated salary negotiation from the hiring process in an effort to address the gender wage gap.
Acknowledging this is key. From Pao:
Men negotiate harder than women do and sometimes women get penalized when they do negotiate.
But part of me worries that this is akin to teaching women how to avoid being raped instead of telling men not to rape. Shouldn’t we all just learn that it’s normal to have women ask for what we’re worth?
Also, when NBC ads for Deception began airing, I honestly thought Deception was a made for TV movie starring Kerry Washington that had been in the can for a while but revived due to the popularity of Scandal.
I remember Meagan Good being sexy (if perhaps overdone), but in these shots she is no Kerry Washington. If I hear anyone put the two women in the same class, I will object.
I assume you have figured out that I enjoy writing. Doesn’t everyone with a blog?
But culture…I can see how you might have guessed that my only culture was snark. Not true though!
If you’re not already familiar with my friend Monica Bhide, let me introduce you to this amazing writer, chef, teacher, wife and mother.* Monica manages to combine all of these wonderful things, and make a living from it.